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Single Mom Solutions: Overcome Agoraphobia and Anxiety with Tips From June Steed

Life on this planet is short and if you suffer from panic attacks and agoraphobia, I am betting that you have spent a lot of time in the house and very little exploring the joys that life has to offer. Let’s get you out into the world again! What do you gain from having panic attacks? What a ridiculous question this seems! Let’s take a deeper look though and see if any of these apply to you.

Agoraphobia and Anxiety Symptoms

Are you able to avoid being an empowered grown up and all the responsibilities and freedom that go with that? Do panic attacks enable you to be the controlling force in all the things your spouse or family do…even if it is a negative thing? Are you able to justify your lack of motivation or energy on panic attacks? What is your currency? What would get you moving again? What have you got that means more to you than panic attacks?

Single Mom Suggestion! If you are experiencing agoraphobia, a serious anxiety, or panic attack,  remember to breathe properly in order to calm down. We need to remember that our bodies are like machines, and taking proper breaths is what fuels them properly.

Let’s say that you won the lottery, started a new relationship, took a tropical holiday, would that get yoagoraphobiau moving again? What I am suggesting is that we all have a personal currency and what you need to find is something that is of more value to you than panic disorder. I was housebound with it for many years and my currency was getting a dog. I loved my new dog, Murphy, a great deal.

At first, I could only go a few feet from home with him before I would have to run back to the safety of my front door. He must have been very bewildered as to why he took such short walks when the other neighborhood dogs went around the park! As time went on, however, my love for this dog and his needs for a daily walk of substance became more important to me than the panic.

Single Mom Suggestion! Don’t look at yourself in the mirror. This does not help at all when you are suffering a panic attack or symptoms of agoraphobia.

I remember reading once about a man who was housebound with panic attacks. He and his wife had tried all sorts of therapy but with no success. Finally, his wife packed a suitcase and called a taxi. While she waited for the taxi, she told her husband that she had no choice but to leave him as her own health was suffering from his panic disorder. 

When he saw that he was about to lose the wife he adored, he jumped into the taxi beside her and never looked back. They went on to a new life that was panic free because he realized that she was more important to him than the panic. In his future, whenever he felt panic coming on, he let it do its worst and quickly lost the fear of the sensations of fear.

Agoraphobia and Anxiety Strategies

 

I am in no way suggesting that leaving your spouse or family is the way to manipulate a spouse to get over panic disorder. I am only pointing out that we all have a currency that works better for us than panic disorder. Do you have an orange in the house? When we over breathe (hyperventilate), we can bring on a panic attack. We tend to breathe from high up in our chest and breathe in a shallow rhythm. Lie down on the floor and place the orange about belly button height.

Single Mom Suggestion! Find a visual or aural anchor that makes you feel calm or relaxed when working through agoraphobia. Try to choose something abundant and ever-present, such as clouds or water.

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Single Mom Suggestion! At times you will find yourself in different positions during a panic attack and dealing with agoraphobia. If you have an anxiety attack, do whatever you can do in order to keep yourself distracted.

agoraphobiaNow practice breathing slowly and at an even pace from your diaphragm. As you watch the orange move slowly, up and down, up and down, you will know that you are doing this exercise correctly. This tip alone will cut down your panic attacks. Practice, practice, practice! You are better off cold than hot if you have panic disorder. Studies have proven this.

Invest in a personal cooler that fills with water and sprays a fine cold mist around your neck or wrist. Another way to feel cool is to always carry mints with you. When you feel a panic attack coming on, chew several of them. The burst of cooling mint will ease the panic. Another tool is to carry a small freezer gel block, the sort that you would use for a cooler. If you feel hot and about to panic, place the block wherever it will soothe and cool you. It works!

Single Mom Suggestion! It is vital to limit your alcohol and caffeine intake when you are coping with anxiety and agoraphobia. Rather than helping you to relax, alcohol in excess can actually aggravate your anxiety.

Watch out for the second fear. When we feel a panic attack coming on, if we let it whoosh through us, it will go quite quickly. It is when we add a second fear, such as,

“Oh, no, what’s going to happen next?”

or

” I can’t stop it! I’m going to make a fool of myself in front of these people”.

or

“What if I pass out?”

These second and third and fourth fears are what give the panic attack more energy. Rather, sit or stand quietly, try to make your mind blank, breathe slowly and rhythmically, and the panic attack will go away. It is the fear of the sensations of fear that keep us bound. Once your brain sees that you do not attach undue importance to these feelings, it will stop trying to protect you by going into the fight or flight mode. Of course, we want this protection if a hungry lion is sitting beside us but we don’t usually need it when we are standing in a line at the grocery store!

Single Mom Suggestion! If you are wanting to learn how to control your anxiety and agoraphobia symptoms, you must have the ability to control your thoughts. Not having control over any of your thoughts, only makes your anxiety even worse.

What we focus on, expands. If we fill our mind with negative or frightening images, that is what our mind will hold on to. Focus instead on happy and uplifting things. Re-evaluate the movies, magazines and video games you play. Focus on seeing yourself panic free.  Where would you like to see yourself panic free, on the beach watching the clouds roll by, playing games with your children or grandchildren, watching their happy faces? Your imagination can transport you anywhere and is better than any television or movie. Practice day dreaming scenes where you are panic free and enjoying yourself.

Single Mom Suggestion! Avoid hyperventilation when suffering from agoraphobia. If you start breathing heavily due to your anxiety, in no time it could turn into extreme hyperventilation.

It might be hard at first but please persevere. Your life is too precious to waste in panic attacks. If you can’t imagine being panic free just yet, imagine being in beautiful surroundings, having a mild panic attack that goes quickly. When you see that it’s gone, quickly return to having fun again in your day dream. Are you eating well? Most panic attack sufferers could improve their diet but often lack the energy to cook. Easy peasy! Start the day with a delicious, nutrient packed smoothie. Most supermarkets will deliver the ingredients to your door or ask a friend to shop for you.

Single Mom Suggestion! If you have an anxiety disorder, it may be wise to seek out a support group for people with anxiety disorder and panic attack. Being around others who share your symptoms can be a great comfort and will allow you to share ideas for controlling anxiety and overcoming your fears.

Each morning, put in one cup of milk, one scoop of protein powder, (vanilla or fruit flavor), a cup of frozen berries or other frozen fruit and a vitamin capsule with the outer case removed. Blend it all together. You will find that the frozen fruit will thicken it so it is like ice cream. Ice cream with nutrition, that is! This tip will set you up for the day and make it less likely that you will have a panic attack. Do you know that millions of people around the world suffer with panic attacks and agoraphobia? Bet you do. Do you also know that many can recover completely using these tips? Give them a try. You may well be the next.

Single Mom Suggestion! Distract yourself from feelings of anxiety by acting goofy for a little while. Try focusing on something else, if you are having a panic attack. Redirect, Refocus, Revive!

Agoraphobia Tips

June Steed is a caring and experienced life coach located in Western Canada. She coaches worldwide by phone, email or Skype. Her special expertise is in helping those who suffer with panic attacks, and housebound agoraphobia. She will also coach the housebound live, on their cell phone, as they venture out from the safety of their home. Compassionate and dedicated to her clients’ success, she can be contacted at her websitehttp://www.junesteedlifecoach.com on Twitter as @JuneSLifeCoach or at junesteedlifecoach on Facebook.

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Help with Parenting – Recognizing Depression in Your Troubled Teenager

Recognizing a Troubled Teenager

I say that because Jamie Hubley did not die of “natural causes”.  He died after taking his own life. The 10th grade blogger documented his unbearable struggles with depression and bullying resulting largely  from being the only openly gay teen in his high school.  Those close to Jamie knew of the daily challenges he faced. “You fought a hard battle, doing things most kids wouldn’t ever have the guts to do. You were brave, and strong and I admire you so much for everything you’ve done. You went through stuff that no kid should ever have to face in their lifetime, but somehow through all the hardships you still shone at school … You left a big footprint in everyone’s heart, and you will always be remembered,” wrote one student.  . 

Jamie Hubley – A Troubled Teenager

Even at the young age of 15, Jamie made a concerted effort to assuage the troubled teenagersadnessess of those around him. He could not, however, completely hide his disdain for those who were unable or unwilling to return the favor. After reading just a handful of Jamie’s entries on Tumblr, the cries for help were unmistakable.  How such obvious grief and turmoil was missed is beyond comprehension.  This young man’s death really struck a chord with us here at Single Mom Weekly.  Single motherhood comes with so many responsibilities that it is often easy to overlook the signs and symptoms of our loved ones’ personal struggles. A troubled teenager in our lives will often find it difficult to communicate how they are feeling and when they truly need our help. 

According to the NIH, for every one suicide death, there are an estimated 11 suicide attempts.  It is important to know the signs and symptoms of anyone who might be considering ending their own life.  (NIH Publication No. 06-4594)

Troubled Teenager Risk Factors for Suicide

  • One or more prior suicide attempts
  • Family history of mental disorder or substance abuse
  • Family history of suicide
  • Family violence
  • Physical or sexual abuse
  • Chronic physical illness or pain
  • Keeping firearms in the home

The many responsibilities of single parenthood can often overwhelm the most efficient multi-tasker.  The time and energy needed to successfully support a depressed child can often devastate the delicate balance of a single parent family.  In order to prevent neglect of the other aspects of your family and household, here are some tips to keep in mind to help maintain a holistic focus on your troubled teenager.

Maintain an honest and open family relationship – While your instincts may be to shelter other siblings and family members from the pain and anxieties of your depressed family member, remember that children can sense when something is wrong.  Being open and honest about what is going on can not only help any hidden thoughts of guilt, but can empower your children to help their sibling by showing support in their own way.  In addition, encouraging everyone to share their thoughts and feelings can also help uncover any similar thoughts in other children.

Consider Needs of Healthy Children- When there is a major fire, our impulse is the focus all of our efforts on putting it out.  However, there are often embers smoldering in other areas that are kept at bay by proper balancing.  The depression of one family member can often ignite the stress and anxiety in others so remember to  keep a close eye on the siblings and troubled teenager to maintain as much balance within the household as possible.

Seek Out Single Parent Support Systems – Even in a two parent family, parents can become overwhelmed maintaining a household during a crisis situation.  This pressure is increased exponentially in a single parent household.  Remember to seek out and maintain single parents support systems to help with stressful situations.  Sometimes, simply talking with an understanding friend or family member can reduce stress and anxiety. Read on to get help with improving communication skills to better related to your troubled teenager,

Resist Finger Pointing- Maintaining a positive outlook in an otherwise scary and tumultuous situation can often be very difficult.  Resist blaming yourself or others since doing so will only cause additional stress to an already pressurized situation.  The primary focus should be on restoring normalcy and moving toward a positive, healthy future for your troubled teenager and your entire family.

Remember How to Schedule Self-care- while taking care of loved ones is the priority for the single mom, you can’t forget to take care of yourself even in the face of adversity.  The first order of business is making sure you maintain your good physical and mental health so that you provide the needed support for your troubled teenager and the rest of your family.

Warning Signs of a Troubled Teenager thinking about Suicide

  • Talking or joking about committing suicide.
  • Engaging in reckless behavior or having a lot of accidents resulting in injury.
  • Writing stories and poems about death, dying, or suicide.
  • Speaking positively about death or romanticizing dying (“If I died, people might love me more”).
  • Saying things like, “I’d be better off dead,” “I wish I could disappear forever,” or “There’s no way out.”
  • Giving away prized possessions.
  • Saying goodbye to friends and family as if for good.
  • Physical harm to self, i.e. cutting
  • Seeking out weapons, pills, or other ways to kill themselves.
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The death of Jamie Hubley could have been prevented.  In the words of Gay Rights Activist, Jeremy Dias, “gay youth often feel different from their peers, which can increase feelings of loneliness.

He said despite the name of the “It Gets Better” initiative, “things don’t just magically get better. Things are made better. And Jamie said it so clearly in his messages, that he can’t wait for things to just get better, that we as a community have to decide to make things better.”Read more: http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Canada/20111017/jamie-hubley-teen-suicide-111017/#ixzz1bA7zlwKB

“Jamie is free of his pain now and there is a new angel,” Allan Hubley said, “but we have paid too high a price.” Let’s do our part to set better examples for our youth of tolerance and inclusion. If we all make an effort, we as a community can make things better for troubled teenagers and all kids. Join us in leaving messages of support in Jamie’s honor on his Facebook Memorial Page.

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Workplace Bullying: Identify the Causes of Workplace Bullying

What Causes Workplace Bullying?

There are many different factors which can cause workplace bullying.  While none of these are 100% definite, they are circumstances which contribute to workplace abuse.  

Corporate Restructuring – In many cases, termed “leveraging of resources”, significant changes in the organizational structure can trigger a great deal of animosity at all levels of the workplace.  Anger and bitterness resulting from promotions or demotions, whether fair or not, often cause ill-will.  This does not justify workplace bullying but it is a frequent indicator of a potential for targeted workplace abuse. 

Employee Status or Characteristics – Employees with different identifying characteristics such as age, gender, race, intern or apprentice status, parental status, marital status, sexual orientation, color, religion or disability are often indicators of common bullying targets. 

Workplace Relationships – Employees who may have good personal relationships within their workgroup can easily be targeted by those who do not.  Likewise, employees who have tenuous relationships with supervisors or managers may be targeted by others as a weak link. In another scenario, recent corporate level organizational changes may contribute to an overall morale decline in the workplace.  Employees or even managers may feel pressured to justify their positions by targeting employees in attempts to safeguard their employment.
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How Workplace Bullying Affects Employees

In many cases, people spend more time in the workplace than they do with their own families.  With this in mind, the issue of workplace bullying is twofold.  The relationships in both the workplace and the personal life are negatively affected.  The target of abuse may experience physical, emotional, psychological and mental effects up to and including:

  • PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
  • Family member stress and strain
  • Depression/Low Self-Esteem
  • GI (Gastrointestinal) Problems
  • Financial Problems resulting from multiple absences
  • Headaches and musculoskeletal problems
  • Financial problems from increased medication costs

Workplace bullying takes a toll on everyone.  Single moms can especially feel the pressure of added workplace stress with the many responsibilities of single motherhood.  Make life easier by effectively maintaining the relationships that matter most.  In order to avoid further stress, read on to learn how to Minimize the Physical Signs of Stress.  Keep in mind that in all likelihood, the perpetrators will not stop.  Start now and protect your livilihood by establishing a Plan B today.  Get Single Mom Maximum Leverage and take back control of your family’s future.

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Single Mom Projuicers: Learn the Different Types of Juicers

You have got to know what type of juicer does what.  Determine what your uses for a juicer will be before making a purchase.  Take a moment to familiarize yourself with these basic concepts in order to make the right choice for you and your family.

The masticating juicer grinds fruits and vegetables to extract the juice.  It  grinds and then presses the juice from the pulp.  It is a little more fexible than the centrifugal juicers and is good for making sauces and baby foods. The Champion homogenizes or mixes to make things like peanut butter and other types of nut butters, baby foods and  creamy desserts.  This juicer is typically bulkier than most juicers and is available in a consumer or commercial version. 

A twin gear juicer uses inter-meshing stainless steel twin gears to squeeze and press fruits and vegetables.  It operates at less than 200 RPM so nutrient value is high and the effective squeezing by twin gears produces highest yield. The twin gear juicer, such as the Greenstar Elite, will juice all fruits and vegetables including the highly desireable wheatgrass and leafy greens. It also makes little work of pasta, nut butters and frozen fruit desserts.  These juicers are also of the larger and heavier variety of projuicers.  They do have numerous parts which can make cleaning a challenge after each use. Thetwin gear juicers is typically the projuicer of choice by  raw food enthusiasts because of the high yield and the high nutrient concentration of the resulting product.

The centrifugal juicer is generally user friendly and has a large chute to minimize chopping before juicing. It also can be easier to clean than other types of projuicers.  Ejection type centrifugal juicers separate the pulp from the juice by expelling the pulp into an external container. With this type of centrifugal juicer, you can juice to your heart’s content without stopping for periodic cleanings of the mesh.  The non-ejecting centrifugal juicer is a little different.  The spinning mesh basket holds the pulp while the juice is “spun” from the basket.  This can create clogs after a while so cleaning may be needed if you a juicing large quantities of product for your family.   Good yield, but slightly less than the standard centrifugal juicers.  Both types of the centrifugal juicers are relatively easy to clean but will not juice wheatgrass. 

Now that you have a better idea of the different types of juciers, take a minute to look at a few of the best projuicers in the industry.

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A Simple Single Mom Diet Plan for Weight Loss

A Simple Single Mom Diet Plan for Weight Loss

Diet Plan for Weight Loss

A diet plan for weight loss is not a concept that is at the top of everyone’s list. As a single mom, the effects of being overweight can be multiplied by the staggering responsibilities of parenthood. Busy single moms can experience the kind of fatigue that sleeping late, vacationing, and even quiet time alone just doesn’t eradicate. Many single parents have little or no time to exercise and resort to the most expedient methods to feed their kids. This sometimes leads to daily take-out diets, which are high in fats and low in nutritional value. Ultimately, we experience the dreaded weight gain when we don’t have a solid diet plan for weight loss. While there is no one pill or potion to regain our high school physique, we can take some easy steps to personalize a simple diet plan for weight loss.

Diet Plan for Weight Loss

First, start with a quick physical with your personal physician. He or she is familiar with your particular health situation and can alert you to any foods that may hinder your progress. Once you get the green light, start by assessing your personal situation. Writing down your weight loss goals will make them more concrete in your mind and you can also post them on the refrigerator as a reminder at meal times. Making them measurable will also provide more motivation in the form of short-term goals. For instance, a sample goal may be to reduce your waist measurement by 4 inches rather than to just achieve a tone stomach.

Next, identify your vices. If you surround yourself with unhealthy snacks, this will make it that much more difficult to reach your goals. Focusing on healthy fruits and vegetables is a great way to start a diet plan for weight loss. A diet that minimizes empty calories such as high sugar sodas and alcohol, can help you relieve many of the symptoms that follow being overweight. As a busy single mom, you may experience restless sleep, muscle and joint pain, headaches and exhaustion. High caffeine beverages can also cause difficulty in concentration and sabotage your carefully laid diet plan for weight loss.

Stay true to your single mom diet plan for weight loss. Keep your pantry stocked with healthy snacking alternatives. This way, you have a healthy option when faced with the golden Oreo temptation. Keep in mind that just a few simple substitutions can add up over time. Air popped popcorn and low sodium pretzels over movie popcorn with butter, saves clicks on the calorie counter. Almonds and walnuts cut the sugar over honey roasted peanuts. Whole grain cereal, pasta and crackers give you the much-needed fiber over the more highly refined white bread and starches.

Protein and Your Diet Plan for Weight Loss

Protein is Your Friend! Many women constantly struggle with losing tummy fat. Increasing your protein intake can help you to get a flat stomach fast. Eating protein early in the day also helps to prevent hunger and fatigue, which is important when living the single mom lifestyle. Eggs, non-processed cheeses, Greek yogurt, peanut butter and almonds are good choices. Meats without breading typically contain little to no carbohydrates which cause blood sugar spikes and more weight gain. Beware of many soy based “meats” and “chicken” nuggets as these often contain less protein. These protein options are important in your arsenal of foods that burn belly fat. Read your labels to be sure.

Remember that you don’t have to banish your favorite treats from the kitchen indefinitely. The kids won’t like that move, either. Once you have reached your own personal weight loss goals, gradually reintroduce your favorites into your diet one at a time. Indulge in moderate proportion and see how your body reacts. This way, you can identify which foods your body is most sensitive to in respect to weight gains and losses.

Water and Your Diet Plan for Weight Loss

We can’t forget the importance of water. Water and protein go hand in hand. If you are dedicated to getting a tone stomach, don’t forget to stay hydrated. It is helpful to have a dedicated water bottle along with a chart so that you can track your water versus fat loss.

Now that you have a few easy steps to developing your own diet plan for weight loss, take your physique to the next level. By staying active just a few times a week and learning the truth about getting a tone stomach, you will look better, feel better and lead a more balanced life.

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Divorced Single Moms: Reflect, Reorganize, and Refocus for Single Mom Success

Divorced Single Mom:  Reflect, Reorganize and Refocus for Single Mom Success

 

Holidays can be very difficult for some who are newly embracing "my single" life and even those who are veterans of the single life. Divorced single moms can have even greater challenges when there is a break in the traditional activities their kids are used to. Your instincts may prompt you to hide in the house until it's all over, but resist the temptation. Take this opportunity to start new traditions and make new memories, even if you already have a holiday routine. Your kids and even Fido will thank you for it later.

The first thing we might need to do, in the words of Major Payne, is to make an "Attitudinal Adjustment." Reality Check: An invitation to the couples' cookout or the in-laws' beach bash might not be forthcoming. Unfortunately, many relationships are based simply on association. If the majority of your friends knew your Ex before meeting you, their loyalties may be torn. This is not to say that once the dust has settled that these associations can't be revisited, but for now everyone really needs space to figure things out. This is the time to reflect, reorganize and refocus on the things that matter most to YOU! New and Veteran single moms – let's see what we can do.

Axe the Envy, Halt the Hate. Yes, it's tempting to "hate on" those who now seem to have it all when it comes to family life, but please keep in mind that things are not always as they seem. Relationships evolve and often run their course. The worst part about this is that most people hold on out of fear of the unknown, long after the cows have come and gone again. Thank your luck starts that you are not in that position. Looking forward comes with the opportunity for bigger, better and more fulfilling things.

Single Mom Holidays

Prioritize. As we transition through the holiday season, think of the things and activities that are most important to you and your family. Did you previously neglect your own desires to make a mate happy? Did you spend too little time with your extended family? Did you not spend enough time away from extended family? Whatever the case may be, decide what it is you want for you and your family and set out and do it. Whether a Disney Cruise for Valentine's Day, a wild and fun Mardi Gras with the girls in New Orleans, or a quiet Easter building sand castles on the beach, be thankful the choice is now yours.

Provide Perspective. Challenging and changing times can be an excellent source of understanding and growth for your children. Often our sense of loss as a newly divorced single mom is put into perspective when we realize how fortunate we really are. Volunteering with your children at a local homeless shelter can help raise their awareness levels and refocus their thoughts on helping others in more challenging situations.  Single Mom Self Care

Connect with Other Single Parents. Spending time with other single parents who understand and share your concerns is invaluable. Even seeking out singles who are not parents can be an enriching experience. Many singles enjoy being included in family style activities and can provide great professional role models in many cases. Often activities and expenses can be shared to the benefit of all.

Connect with Yourself. Taking some time alone is not a crime. Remember that you have to keep your battery charged as a single parent since you can't call anyone in off the bench. You're it! Sending the kids for a weekend at Granny's or Auntie Joan is not against the rules. Schedule this time not to play catch up with your chores, but to make sure you have some rest and relaxation. This might be a good time to pull out that year old gift certificate to the spa or a bit of that rainy day fund for dinner and a movie. You deserve it!

Remember to celebrate yourself! It's because of your dedication and the dedication of all single parents that our families have more opportunities for rich and fulfilling lifestyles. If your budget after divorce is keeping you from giving your kids the best, take a minute to explore new options for financially surviving divorce. The staff of Single Mom Weekly provides a free weekly newsletter to help you process and prosper with single mom support and advice. Join us today and work with other moms who have made the choice to pursue a new career after divorce by working at home. Move forward after divorce today at http://www.SingleMomWeekly.com.

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Help for Single Moms – Develop Single Mom Success With A Change Management Process

 

Change is inevitable, right? Even though change is a constant, in many areas of our lives, it doesn’t get any easier to embrace. Whether it is losing a loved one or losing a job, the abruptness of it all when we are unprepared means difficult times ahead. As much as we hate to admit it, we humans tend to be more reactive than proactive. Even when we know we have a big presentation first thing Monday morning, we still allow that Saints’ victory dance to turn into an all-nighter. We wait until the first named storm of the season to start scurrying for flood insurance. We wait until the absolute last minute to pull out of the parking lot just missing that oncoming car.

single mom change managementWhy is it that we don’t give ourselves more leeway for error in life? Cutting it close time and time again simply creates more unnecessary stress. These elevated stress levels not only jeopardize our jobs, physical safety and mental health, but it often does great harm to the relationships that mean the most to us. Stress affects others’ perceptions of our competence levels on the job and can mean the difference between landing that promotion or a boot on our way to the employment line.

If we know that change is inevitable, why are we not more prepared when it happens? Especially in those cases where the same change cycles happen over and over again? Is it that we are truly clueless? Or are we simply ignoring the distant sounds of any oncoming train? Whatever the case may be, we all probably need to do a better job at anticipating change. Easier said than done, right? Well, not so fast. Let’s really think about one reason that we don’t make change management a higher priority.

One big factor is that single parent benefits are just not easy to come by. Also, finding easy to understand and simple to implement change management help can be like finding a needle in a haystack. One of the issues that many, single mothers in particular, run into is that there is little to no time to devote to self growth in this area. The lack of time doesn’t necessarily have to limit your potential when it comes to change management or developing your own change management process.Just taking a few minutes a week to learn and implement a new change method will make a huge difference in the long run. Let’s do that now and look briefly at some common situations where you can take simple, easy actions for dealing with change.

Technology is Your Friend. OMG, LOL, TTYL… yeah some of these expressions are annoying but these are indicators of the changing times that we are all living in. If you’re still trying to keep up with your Motorola pager or your Apple IIE, then it might be helpful to get with the program. Move with the cheese! Numerous setbacks can result from complacency in the face a change. Technology has afforded us information and applications to better manage our lives, often from the palm of our hands. From simply scheduling in time to meditate before a big meeting, to searching for a car on E-bay while waiting for Auto club, to pulling up menus on the way to Apple bee’s, the advantages that we have been afforded are virtually limitless. Re-channeling our efforts from Words with Friends to monitoring our 401K progress toward retirement could help divert a serious disaster down the road. In short, use these tools to prioritize and manage our important responsibilities.

Learn From History. Enron. Bernie Madoff. Need I say more about the importance of having a plan B? Each of these historical events indicates that a change management course and plan is not as far-fetched as you might think. Just a little effort to prepare for change can head off a major upset.

single mom change managementInitiate Change. The best way to deal with change is to initiate it yourself. This way you have more control over when and where it comes and the direction in which it goes. A good change management course will emphasize this. By being preemptive, for instance, in soliciting performance feedback from your supervisor before evaluation time shows your interest in performing well and gives you a heads up on his or her perception of your work ethic. This is, of course, assuming that you work in a “fair and balanced” environment. Even if you don’t consider yourself the leader of the pack, you can still minimize any negative fallout from change by adapting quickly. By staying on your toes, you can be head and shoulders above the competition. Forget the tortoise and the hare analogy. When it comes to dealing with change, the race does not go to the one who slowly plugs along. It goes to he who adapts most readily to change. When the going gets tough the tough get going.

Ask a Girl Scout. Sometimes, you just can’t predict when and where changes will strike. There were more than a few people caught off guard with Steve Job’s sudden resignation from Apple. Many times, being prepared when changes strike out of the blue can yield extraordinary opportunities for growth. Just ask Tim Cook who slid into home base as Jobs’ new replacement as CEO! The most we can hope for is time enough to adapt accordingly. When we aren’t so fortunate, we have to stay constantly prepared to deal with the unknown. When it comes to our career, is it really so difficult to keep our resume updated and close at hand? Once you realize you are about to take the security-escorted walk of shame, it’s probably not the best time to request letters of recommendation or copy important files. It might be a lot more responsible to review your 401K contributions before you hit year 29 at the J.O.B. It also wouldn’t hurt to start that college fund before the kids hit junior year. In other words, Be Prepared!

While I say much of this in jest, the reality of the matter is we could all lead more streamlined lives by countering complacency with a little preparation and diligence. Remember that change is usually a good thing and a little assertiveness toward your own personal goals will certainly not hurt! If you have aspirations of working you way up to CEO, working from home or just being a better parent, take the initiative to help your family along. By teaching them the skills to better adapt to change with a good change management course, you and your family can become stronger collectively and more confident individually. This comes only to those who actively seek to improve their levels of skill and state of being.

As we at Single Mom Weekly embark on a new horizon of providing a resource for single parent benefits, we hope to be able to provide you with the tools and techniques to help you to create a more fulfilling lifestyle as a single mom. Our partnership with each of you is very important to us and we will rely on you to give us feedback on what we are doing right. We also want to hear about what we can do to improve our contribution to the single parent community for a more relevant experience for you.

Remember that change is usually a good thing and a little assertiveness toward your own personal goals will certainly not hurt! If you have aspirations of working you way up to CEO, working from home or just being a better parent, take the initiative to help your family along. By learning yourself and teaching them the skills to better adapt to change with a good change management course, you and your family can become stronger collectively and more confident individually. This comes only to those who actively seek to improve their levels of skill and state of being. Join us and get our complimentary report single mom http://singlemomweekly.com/home-biz-get-report

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Breast Cancer Awareness: Remember to Guard the Girls!

 

Breast Cancer Awareness

Breast cancer is one of the most common forms of cancer to affect women and men at any age. Since its reach is widespread, cancer awareness is very important in order to assist women in identifying the initial signs and symptoms of cancer. This is important as there is currently a 96% survival rate if breast cancer is diagnosed and treated early. However, there are more than 40,000 women who succumb to breast cancer on an annual basis. This indicates that in these unfortunate circumstances, there is not enough awareness of the importance of self breast exams. Breast cancer awareness bracelets are one very simple means by which health care providers can spread the word and increase breast cancer awareness. In addition, other consumer products just as tote bags, t-shirts and other novelty items are very visible reminders of the ongoing battle against breast cancer.

Breast Cancer Awareness Bracelets

There are numerous means by which groups of women and men who support the breast cancer awareness cause. Onesuch means is by the annual race for a cure and breast cancer awareness which is sponsored by the Susan B. Komen Foundation. This event promotes breast cancer awareness and increases the visibility of breast cancer awareness information by way of t-shirts, breast cancer awareness bracelets and other paraphernalia which support the cause.

Join the Cause!

Join the Cause!

In the United States, many women are already aware of this disease as well as its distressing effect on many personal lives of those who develop breast cancer and the people who care for them. However, in spite of the growing awareness, of the positive benefits of early detection, many women still fail to include a breast cancer screening as part of their routine physical assessments. This is yet another reason to incorporate reminder items such as breast cancer awareness bracelets into the consumer base. The more often people are reminded of a concept the more comfortable they grow with the idea. By performing monthly self checks, irregularities or lumps may be detected in the early stages of breast cancer and early diagnosis can be properly confirmed by a physician. Women should encourage each other to undergo regular testing and to report any and all suspicious breast abnormalities to their physician. Maintaining your health is important for moms and grandmoms who want to be there as their children grow into adulthood.Don’t allow breast cancer to rob you you and your loved ones of precious life time.
To find out more information on how you can increase your Breast Cancer Awareness, check out our Breast Cancer Awareness page. Click the link to get your very own breast cancer awareness bracelets and other item. Join the cause today!

At Your Service,
April Storm

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Single Mom Stress

Single Mom Stress: When Counting to 10 Just Doesn’t Work

Make it Stop!

We have all been there. The dog won’t stop barking, the kids are tearing up the house, dinner is burning on the stove, the phone and door bell are ringing, the pet fish is missing and there is a suspiciously fishy smell coming from the couch. Well, if you know what I’m talking about, then you also know that Calgon is not gonna just come and take you away and the single mom benefits you thought of are a distant memory. The perils of single parenting not only include many responsibilities, but these responsibilities are often handled under very stressful and high pressure situations.

Exhausted

One of the challenges for many in dealing with single mom stress is to vent those pressures in an appropriate and constructive manner. Many single moms and people in general, tend to keep these feelings bottled up inside to the point where they become symptomatic. Such single mom stress symptoms may include unwarranted pessimism, an overly critical outlook, crying, sadness, fatigue, sleeplessness, angry outbursts, back and neck pain, overeating, lack of focus and in some cases, depression. In addition, not properly addressing these symptoms can eventually lead to child abuse. Since we are all here to help each other and our children to lead happier, healthier lives, why don’t we explore some ways in which we can redirect our single mom stress into more positive channels? And then turn these stressful situations into a single mom benefit!

Take a Deep Breath

Before lashing out or responding in the heat of the moment, take a minute to do some deep

Discouraged

breathing exercises. If the situation is too far gone, sometimes it is best to just walk away and gather your thoughts before proceeding. By giving yourself time away from the situation, you are in a better position to determine how to deal appropriately with the problem instead of saying something or doing something that will do irreparable damage to your relationship with your child.

Prepare, Prepare, Prepare and Did I say Prepare?

If you repeatedly deal with troublesome behavior or situations on a daily basis, in your downtime, think of different ways of handling them when they come up again. Rehearse your responses in your head and keep trying a new strategy until you find one that works. Draw on your single parents support network to find out how they may have dealt with the same problems. This will alleviate a lot of frustration for you as you will have an arsenal of tactics ready to deal with predictable problems.

Get Rid of Clutter

Clutter is one of the known contributory factors of stress. Try to maintain an orderly living area and your personal space. The whole house need not be spotless, but orderly is a must. If your children are old enough, have them to help out by taking responsibility for keeping their toys not in use put away. Use positive reinforcement as much as possible and be firm in accountability when children are disobedient. Getting children in the routine of taking responsibility for their actions will minimize stress for you as there will be no question about the rewards or consequences of their behaviors.

Take a Time Out

Life is not just running from one task to the other, rinsing and repeating. Life is to be enjoyed and taken in at a leisurely pace when possible. Sometimes, we have to make sure we pencil in plenty of self-care time. Just a few minutes to meditate while the kids are watching television, or a quick stroll down the block to walk the family pet can do wonders for countering a rough day. One of the best single mom benefits is that you are the adult that gets to call all the shots. So when you need a time out, everybody gets a time out! For more information on single mom benefits and tips, subscribe to our weekly newsletter, Single Mom Weekly. Other benefits and resources can be found at AskWendyWebb.com and a little Retail Therapy never hurts!

At Your Service,

April Storm

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